I'll handle it

Internationally renowned author, Susan Jeffers, has helped millions of people around the globe to overcome their fears and heal the pain in their lives.Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway will give you the insight and tools to vastly improve your ability to handle any given situation. You will learn to live your life the way you want - so you can move from a place of pain, paralysis and depression to one of power, energy and enthusiasm. This inspiring modern classic has helped thousands turn their anger into love - and their indecision into action - with Susan Jeffers' simple but profound advice to 'feel the fear and do it anyway'.

Our inability to deal with fear is not a psychological problem - it's an educational one.  Re-educate the mind and accept fear is a fact of life, not a barrier to success - 

Three Levels of Fear

1. Surface story, situation fears - things that 'happen' such s ageing, being alone, change, illness and things that 'require action' such as having a child, driving, public speaking.
2. Fears of the ego and inner states of mind - rejection, success, disapproval.
3. The biggest fear of all is that - 'I can't handle it' (in general - anything and everything). -   

If you knew you could handle anything that came your way, what would you possibly have to fear?  NOTHING! Develop more trust in your ability to handle whatever comes your way. - 

Don't worry too much about the origin of the fear, start where you are and take the action necessary to change it. 

5 Truths About Fear - 

1. Fear will never go away.  
2. The only way to get rid of fear of doing something is to DO I
3. The only way to feel better about myself is to go and DO IT - doing comes first, feeling better comes second.
4. EVERYONE experiences fear in unfamiliar situations.
5. Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with it and the associated helplessness.

Fear is not the problem, how we hold onto it is.   Power is the ability to work through fear and without this power you're helpless, depressed, paralysed.  How to cultivate this power - DO IT! - 

How to Say Yes More Often

1.  Create awareness that you're saying no.  Be aware of what you're telling yourself and others.

2.  Actually nod your head up and down and say yes.  There is something powerful about the physical act of doing this. Try it!

3.  Become aware of tension in your body, identify where it is and let it go.

4.  Identify ways to learn from the experience.

5. Be patient with yourself.

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